This blog is about young moms and their struggles. How they have dealt with pregnancy being so young to now. Thank you ladies for contributing your stories.
I found out I was pregnant in October 2013. I was a senior in high school and getting pregnant was far from what I was expecting. I had irregular periods a lot so I didn't keep track like I should have. Well about a week after my 18th birthday I started feeling super drained. I could sleep all day even though I was goin to bed at the same time and my day routine was normal. I knew something was up when I sat down to eat and felt super nauseous. I thought I was gettin a bug so I just went in to get some medicine but sure enough I was pregnant. So many thoughts ran through my mind. What was my parents goin to say, what was my Bf going to do, how was I goin to finish school? Everyone took it well but the first 4 months were awful!!! I could hardly go to school cuz I had awful sickness all day long, all I wanted to do was sleep, horrible headaches, and then having to see a chiropractor for my back. I developed anxiety about halfway through my pregnancy and I had no clue what was happening to me. One day I found myself not being able to breath, my chest hurt terribly, and I just felt like I couldn't function. I had to wear a heart monitor, several ekg's, blood work, and finally got the all clear that it was only anxiety. It was a huge relief that nothing was physically wrong with me but I had to do something about my anxiety. My Bf and I had decided to get married and I was able to move in with him and his parents so that he could still be close to work. I didn't have any income since I was 6 months pregnant so things were hard at times but support from family was amazing . My husband was so supportive and just as excited as I was. My anxiety seemed to be better since we didn't have to worry about finances and finding a place to live in such short notice. We ended up getting married at the courthouse because I was super stressed with finishing school and planning a wedding. I got behind in a few of my online classes and I thought for sure I was going to fail. I ended up have my son at 39 weeks 3 days. I took my last high school final a week later with my son in my lap. I never imagined being married and having a baby at 18 but I wouldn't trade it for the world. There was many struggles along the way but now my husband and I have our own place and a little girl on the way in September. Being 19 with two babies isn't what I had planned but it's what God had in store for me. With a supportive husband and family anything is possible.
~Kristen Harwood
Hello when I first found out that I was pregnant I had just turned 16 years old, during the summer of me starting my second year of high school my mom was upset with me but I wasn't being raised by her I was with my grandma and my aunt they raised me my mom had took me to planned parenthood and had asked me if I was going to give my kid up for adoption or if I was going to give him or her to my grandma so she could take care of him or her and I told her no I was going to. When I had started my second year of high school no one wanted to hang out with me because I was the pregnant girl and or i'd get these weird stares and people would whisper is she pregnant or is she just fat like I couldn't hear them. girls in my grade started asking me if I was pregnant because they thought it was a rumor and when I told them they said thank you for being honest with me because most people would lie and they started to talk to me because I didn't lie to them, 3 months into high school I moved away to a different school and had to start all over again with friends, then in February I had my daughter Ashton now 3 years old I was so excited the only thing was I couldn't share the joy with the father because sadly I didn't know who it was because it was...we went and got a DNA test done for the guy I thought it was and it turned out to be him. when our daughter was 4 months old we started to work things out and got back together and eventually my daughter and I moved in with him, everything was nice and I loved having my family the it's so nice to watch your kids grow up and watch them over come things it's nice to see them crawl, walk and talk, juggling school and taking care of her after I got home was hard, then when she was 9 months old I found out that I was pregnant with baby number 2 I was in 11th grade at that point in time and I still was so excited to be having another kid but I felt guilty because it was so soon and it wasn't planned I felt like a bad mom, I didn't tell anyone other then my fiancé and his mom knew but that was it..after my daughter turned 1 two days after my grandma passed and I beat my self up for not telling her ...my mourning sickness was awful and still being in high school got bad because i was sick all the time or I didn't get any sleep so I never got up for school so I eventually stopped going I had my son junior in July and now I just had my fiancés and My 3rd kid together the 28th of April. All my kids are young and it's hard to take care of them sometimes but I'd never change it for the world. It's great to say that I actually am raising and taking care of my own kids with my fiancé their dad and to step up and take responsibility for being so young when I had my first kid to now. The struggles of being a teen mom at a young age is having friends and then all of a sudden not having friends the next day because their parents found out that I was pregnant so they didn't want them talking to me anymore because they thought their kids would have gotten pregnant if they hung out with me and having people think I couldn't do it because I was a child my self. And having people doubt you because of being so young.
~Michalla Shultz
I found out I was pregnant March 2013. I was 18 and had only been married 3 months. We was scared but so excited. Our pregnancy came to an end on April 29th 2013. The first of many upsets. I conceived in June 2013. Everything was great we was expecting twin girls. On November 14th again our pregnant ended with them having no heart beat. My husband and I was so upset. I was thinking I was less of a women cause I couldn't not have kids. I started drinking everyday unsure emoticon we had a slip up . On December 22 I found out I was pregnant again. January came and I started bleeding again. My husband told me I should just realize I couldn't have kids. I made him take me to the hospital anyways at the hospital they wouldn't show us anything. The next day I went for an ultrasound where my baby had a heart beat and was doing great. I had a blood clot in the sac with the baby that's why I was bleeding. I delivered a beautiful handsome little boy in September . I'm now 20, my son is 9months and I'm 3months pregnant with a healthy baby so far.
~S.P.
I found out I was pregnant in April of 2010. I was 16 but turned 17 May 1st. In September of 2010 that I returned to school as a senior. It was a horrible experience going to school while pregnant. I would get the stares, the "does she know who the dad is?" When I would pass by. I would walk proudly because I have only been with my boyfriend intimately. It wasn't until October that I was hospitalized and put on bed rest because my preeclampsia was so bad. During my stay only two of my "friends" were there to visit only a few times. I was induced on November 13th and had my son on November 15th all natural. He was only 3lbs and 15.5oz. We had to stay in NICU for two weeks. I was the most painful most rewarding thing ever. I still had my "friends" by my side being supportive. I returned to school in February of 2011 I only had an English class to complete and it was in the morning. Right after the class I would get on the city bus and go straight home to my baby boy. In April of 2011 rumors started to spread about my "friends" that supposedly I started, come to find out my own "friends" started them and blamed them on me because they just didn't want to be my friends anymore. I was called a whore, bad mother, and terrible friend. EVERYONE stopped talking to me right before graduation and I had to walk with all boys who were basically the only ones who would talk to me. I took a year off of school after graduation to be with my son. I went back to school in March of 2012 and graduated as a Medical assistant in January of 2013. Come to find out I was pregnant with my youngest on October of 2013 and delivered him on July 12th, 2014. Healthy as can be . Until this day me and my husband are very happy with our two boys. And I have only been with my husband so I don't consider myself a whore.
~ELOISA RAMIREZ
I was 18 when I got pregnant! It was so hard because I was just getting over a breakup from the love of my life(Silly Teenage Love) I found the first Rebound guy I could get a hold of and got pregnant 3 months later! I was a horrible and the most depressing time! I missed a lot of periods and than got one in Sept. of 2010! Never got one in Oct. so a day after I had a really weird dream I took a test and found out I was expecting! I told the dad( even though we weren't speaking at that point) that i was pregnant and he was ok but not really excited or anything! I didn't tell my parents till couple weeks later and I first told my mom and she cried and cried for a very long time! Than My sister(7 years older) came along and I told her which she started crying also! They were both so upset and so disappointed in me! I come from a very conservative Baptist Family that does not believe in sex before marriage! The hardest and scariest time in my life was when my father came home! I sat next to him already crying and my mom told him I was pregnant! He was so mad and started yelling and screaming! I ran to my room and texted my mom and told her that i understand if they want to kick me out of the house and that i don't care anymore! Couple weeks later we went in and told my pastor that i was pregnant and I was going to go tell the church family so they weren't in shock when my belly got big! My work family was so sweet and let me go home early because I was crying so hard and shaking after that talk because I really hate any type of confrontation! Thankfully my Church family was 100% supportive and so loving! My family was still barely talking to me so I decided at 20 weeks to invite both girls(mom and sister) to the ultrasound and they both fell in love with their new Niece and Grand daughter that all was pretty much forgiven and they were very happy! My dad finally came around at 28 weeks when he felt her move! I worked up until 40 weeks and 2 days when I finally got induced and my whole family was there and the dad came last minute to the birth! I had a wonderful Labor and Delivery and went home 2 days later to house filled with love smile emoticon I didn't really have any bumps along the way except with the babies dad would never come around and just wasn't being helpful at all! Fast Forward past all the boring stuff to 15 months after she was born! I was dating my Best Friend of 4 years and we were only dating for a month or so when my daughter decided to call him daddy which we just pretended like never happened but thankfully a year later he is her official daddy and we could NOT be more thrilled! Life has been really great and the love in the house is so sweet that i couldn't wish for anything more! I am now 23 and she is 4 years old (Birthday 2 weeks away!!) We are hoping for a new member of the family here soon to join us 3 humans smile emoticon 2 dogs and 3 cats smile emoticon We are all really excited to keep growing and growing love more and more every day!!!
~Crystal
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